Loved Ones of 9/11 Victims Say Faith Is What Gets Them Through

At Ground Zero for Pope’s Visit, Mourners Take Solace in Francis’ Presence

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When your heart is broken, how do you cope? According to many who lost their loved ones when the World Trade Center was attacked, it is their faith.

ZENIT was at Ground Zero when Pope Francis visited this morning and had the chance to speak with relatives and friends of those killed in the attacks.

Brendan Grady, who lost his brother Christopher, a trader for Cantor Fitzgerald, said it was an honor for Pope Francis to be at Ground Zero to remember him.

«I feel like my brother’s grave site was blessed,» he said soberly. «Not everyone can say their relative’s grave site was blessed by the Pope.»

Gives all peace

Judy Grimmer’s husband David died. He worked for Marsh McLennan on the 98th  floor of Tower One. Recalling when she heard the planes hit, she said, «I immediately started to pray. ‘Sacred Heart of Jesus, I place my trust in you.’ My faith and prayers got me through … and get me through.» 

«I can’t imagine my life without my faith,» Grimmer said.

On what today’s visit from Pope Francis means to her, she responded, «David was studying to be a priest at one time, so it’s very special that the Pope is here for him. […] This is the second time I was here. The first time I was here was the 10th anniversary when they put the [Freedom Tower] up. That’s the only time I came because I wanted it to be positive. I never wanted to just come to see an empty hole.»

«So this is wonderful not only because it is completed, but because the Holy Father is here. I am such a devout Catholic, and so is my husband and my family, and I hope everyone finds peace with him coming here. He’s making such a difference in this world. God bless you.»

One man, before the Pope arrived, spoke to reporters about how he had lost his daughter who was a flight attendant on one of the planes that hit the tower. He lamented that she wasn’t supposed to work that day, but was covering for someone sick.

Beacon for the world

Matthew Sellitto also reflected that the Pope is an image of goodness, and what happened here, 14 years ago, is the image of evil.

«I lost my son,» Sallitto, who was keeping a strong front, told us. His son, also Matthew, was in the First Tower. «He worked in Cantor Fitzgerald that lost the most people that day.  He was 23, the youngest person in the building. He had graduated college, the University of Vermont, and had gotten this job at Cantor and loved it.»

«There’s a deeper meaning of [the Pope] coming here, to what we feel in this country is ‘hallowed ground,’ because so many lives were lost here this day,» he added, noting,»Pope Francis shows the world that he comes to bless, to make holy, what some tried to make evil and tried to destroy. He comes here and says we’ll make good come out of bad.»

Sallitto said it’s great that Pope Francis came. «I am Catholic,» he said, «but I think the world, not just Catholics, sees the Pope in a very special way. Obviously, to us Catholics, we see him one way, but I do think the world does look to him for guidance.»

ZENIT asked him if his faith has helped him. He responded, yes. «But I must say,» he added, «I don’t know how you can get through life without faith. It’s what you hold on to.»

«I just think the Pope is hope, a beacon for the world. He is down to earth, he sees many of the problems in the world, and speaks out on them in a way we all can relate to, and gives us some comfort level.»

Another man lost his sister, Deborah, in the Pentagon. As he and his wife conversed with us, the man’s wife pointed out on her smartphone how the reflection on the Freedom Tower was that of a cross, and indeed, it was. 

Another loved one of a lost family member, who asked to remain anonymous, told me, “It has been a very significant day for me. Pope Francis is coming here with a message of joy,» she said.

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Deborah Castellano Lubov

Deborah Castellano Lubov is Senior Vatican & Rome Correspondent for ZENIT; author of 'The Other Francis' ('L'Altro Francesco') featuring interviews with those closest to the Pope and preface by Vatican Secretary of State Cardinal Parolin (currently published in 5 languages); Deborah is also NBC & MSNBC Vatican Analyst. She often covers the Pope's travels abroad, often from the Papal Flight (including for historic trips such as to Abu Dhabi and Japan & Thailand), and has also asked him questions on the return-flight press conference on behalf of the English-speaking press present. Lubov has done much TV & radio commentary, including for NBC, Sky, EWTN, BBC, Vatican Radio, AP, Reuters and more. She also has contributed to various books on the Pope and has written for various Catholic publications. For 'The Other Francis': http://www.gracewing.co.uk/page219.html or https://www.amazon.com/Other-Francis-Everything-They-about/dp/0852449348/

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